The Lie of Success: Be Balanced

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Recently an article came up in my Facebook feed called, “7 Secrets of Successful People to Living a Balanced Life.”

This article painted a fantasy world where high-level CEOs and other successful individuals are superhuman beings who can remain perfectly balanced in every aspect of their life.

They find the time to exercise exactly 40 minutes a day.

They spend the exact amount of time they should with their kids as proven by the most recent scientific research.

They make sure never to neglect their friends and family.

They, of course, meditate every day and pursue a spiritual path.

They even take on new hobbies like learning a language or a musical instrument!

On top of that, they volunteer for causes in which they believe.

Which leads me to say, who are those people?!

A few of them might exist, but honestly, I have not met any of them in person.

In my experience and that of many other entrepreneurs, the whole concept of the “balanced life” is a myth.

You can’t perfectly ration your time and energy into perfectly neat compartments.


Because doing so, you lose your momentum.

Let me give you an example.

What I Learned in Music School

I dedicated a few years of my early adult life towards the dream of becoming a professional musician. When I was in music school, I did not have a “balanced life.”

I lived and breathed music. I practiced 4 hours a day the guitar, one hour the piano, and the rest of the time I attended classes and studied.

I did not have any other hobbies.

I did not date any girls.

I did not do any sports.

All I did was music!

And I made fast progress.

Even at that age, I realized that unless I dedicated all of my time and energy to music, there was no way I could compete in this highly-competitive world.

I had friends who were dating and had part-time jobs — but they were not making progress as fast as I did.

To make quick progress, I learned that I had to let go of the idea of a “balanced life.”

How it Applies Today

I’m not saying that all that matters is working a lot. You have to work smarter, and I’ll be the first one to admit that the long hours are not often necessary.

But what matters is a complete commitment, especially in the first stages of your project.

You can exercise to stay in shape, but don’t train for a marathon or something big.

You can do something that relaxes you but don’t take on new hobbies.

And most importantly, don’t feel guilty if you think your life is out of balance!

Let’s say you want to start doing what you love and quit your day job. To get there, you have a bumpy road ahead of you.

If you throw yourself completely into this project, you will create momentum.

How to Create Passion

Some people worry when they start that they don’t have the passion or don’t know what they love. But passion is something that happens when you’re fully engaged in something, and not some pre-existing condition that drives you to perform!

In other words: you will develop passion the more you do something, and the more you’re into what you do.

To do that, you have to get rid of the idea of a balanced life for a while. Not for all of your life, but say for months.

You know that feeling when time passes by, and you just don’t care because you’re totally into what you do?

That’s the feeling you want!

Maybe you’ll fuel yourself with too much caffeine.

Maybe you’ll neglect your exercise routine.

Maybe you won’t have time for the hobbies you once enjoyed.

But hey, it may be the price to pay to get to your goal! And it’s a temporary phase.

Does this make sense?

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